I soooo missed writing on my blog and interacting with you! I haven’t been consistently online for almost 3 weeks and I feel awful about not being able to reciprocate “the love” but at this time, we as a family have made a decision to:
LEARN TO LET GO
It’s Garrett’s first day of school. I can’t believe he’s now in 3rd Grade! We had the most amazing summer, despite the move and the busy-ness of it all! He has been the most amazing, most understanding and most tolerant 8-year old these past 3 months. While us adults go through the motion of coping, Garrett has remained steadfast, strong and at times was the one who comforted Daddy and I when we had moments of fear and doubts. It’s as if God would actually speak through him!
Many times I would have tears from frustration, defeat, disappointment, overwhelm and when he sees me, he’s quick to offer his shoulder for me to cry on and he’ll always say: “Mom, we are learning a big lesson here and IT”S ALL GOING TO BE OKAY because God promised it will be okay”. He knows that always puts a smile on my face.
However, there would be times when it’s his turn to feel sad, afraid, unsure and it will be my turn to offer my shoulder and a great big hug to assure him that things are going to be alright. In fact, not just alright but behind this challenge is a more meaningful and happier life that will bring all of us closer not just to each other but to our God who makes everything possible!
I have completely forgotten how it was to move and how long it actually took to unpack and get settled. Sure I could have chosen to just function and made unpacking secondary from work but I wanted to make this new home a HOME to ease my family’s transition. What’s interesting is that because our new home is smaller than our previous home, we have been spending more time together, making dinners, playing board games and enjoying the community hot tub and pool at night as a family.
The more time we spend together, the lesser we became attached to “stuff”. Oh don’t get me started on “stuff”. We moved from a 3,100 sq ft home but because of the storage Gary custom built in our 3 car garage, it felt like we moved contents of a 5,000 sq ft home into a 2,100 sq ft home! Needless to say, we had to let go of a lot of stuff! An entire living room set – recliner couch, love seat and easy chair, dining tables, refrigerator, over 20 boxes of clothes, 15 boxes of books, 1,000 CDs, wrought iron bassinet, top of the line strollers among a few. We sold some, gave away a lot more and disposed of 4 dumpsters full of stuff!
What’s interesting is that we had to learn to let go of our stuff with our “eyes closed”, otherwise, we would have made justification on why we need to keep them and what purpose it may serve in the future. When we got to the new home, I had a major overwhelm from the amount of stuff we still had! I just might have a Phase 2 with my purging efforts!
Through this painstaking, tiring and ever so consuming experience of making decisions which things to let go and which things to hold on to, I came to a realization that STUFF just doesn’t mean tangible things. STUFF can mean so many things that if you allow to accumulate will start feeling heavy… obstructing… challenging. The more new stuff you accumulate, the more you will forget what could have worked for you in the first place.
As entrepreneurs and online marketers, we are faced with decisions about stuff every second:
1)Which stuff to read and which to delete;
2) Which stuff to purchase or stuff to put on our wish list;
3) Which stuff to learn now and stuff to learn later;
4) Articles to write
5) Videos to make
6) Emails to send
7) Replies to comments, posts and tweets
8) Phone calls to be returned
9) Webinars to be planned, promoted and executed
10) Seminars to attend
11) Relationships to nurture
12) Business to plan
13) Clients to serve
14) Bills to pay
15) Trips to plan
16) Social obligation to fill
17) Service of God and others
18) Managing a home
19) Taking care of oneself
20) And of course, finding time for this stuff called FAMILY.
So, I dare you to look at your stuff – both the tangible and intangible and really identify where you’re spending most of your time in. You’ll be amazed that wherever you spend your most time in, becomes the priority in your life and you will find all kinds of reasons why that needs to be the priority in your life.
In my 2 weeks of introspection, I have finally found peace and freedom in letting go of a lot of my stuff… I was concerned at first that people will “un-love” me if they don’t see me actively participating online. I was concerned that once I detach myself online, I may never go back or that I might get so used to being a full time Mom and decide to not go back to doing what I love most…
Empowering entrepreneurs and helping them how to create a powerful online presence to:
Attract Their Clients
Become Branded Experts In Their Niche
In getting rid of so much stuff, so much more blessings came my way by way of friends, supporters, JV offers and more opportunities! I want to take the time to give a special shout out to 3 people who took the time to write and blog about some of my recent posts, and one special lady who created a personal video for me on my birthday:
To all of you who took the time to send me your birthday well wishing, I just want you to know that seeing your names and your greetings inspire me to this day. I look at each of your profile photos and your well-wishing and I send you gratitude and love constantly.
For you my friends who left voice mail messages, text messages, emails, Facebook posts and tweets and continue to understand and support the clarifying stage I am in at the moment, I just want to say my heartfelt THANK YOU…
I will be coming up for air sooner than later. Right around the corner is Joel Bauer’s 7-Day Profit Point Speaker Mastery and I will be one of the 50 who have been so blessed to be accepted by Joel this year.
I have learned to let go of so much and in doing so, I have made room for so much more. I implore you to:
I look forward to hearing of your progress…
As always, I am just here…
Cheering You On To Your Success!