Stop Hiding, Start Engaging!

Recently, I started a Facebook Group I called “The Relational Marketers“.  I formed this group to have a place for individuals to really get to know each other and support each other, not just by commenting or sharing and re-tweeting each other’s post but to really do our best to get to know each other and what we do.

It’s a rather active group – except for when I disappear for a week on vacation and are unable to interact! “Wink-wink”

It’s so refreshing though to see that in the past week or so when I was away, there are a few people who remained engaged…

Beth Wiles, of – specializes in counseling and coaching you so you can discover a new passion and purpose for your life!  She blew me away with her blogpost homeword, on “Are You Fearful or Sharing Your Greatness?” where she shared how with the encouragement from myself and the group, she was able to get over her fear of video and sharing of herself.  Now she has discovered that video is her best friend!  Watch out world, Beth has just begun!

Rowena Bolo of and known as “The Asian Marketer Who Hears You Out”, teaches “how you can discover how you can maximize the rich potential of online marketing.  Rowena and I came from the same country but she’s lived overseas for quite some time now and as we speak, she is touring Europe with her husband. What a life! She shares this very sweet post on how her engagement with me a few months ago, resulted in her being able to overcome her fear of video and essentially not feeling good enough….  Such a rich story here!

Pat and Lorna Shanks, my dear friends from Canada also known as “The Coolest Couple” of teaching people about “Cool Tools, Cool Knowledge and Cool People”, lovingly and generously created 2 videos for me.  One was a video of me signing my book “Attracting Customers for Life” that they won when I raffled it off during my presentation, and another video showing my short interview with them on “How Posting Pictures From Events Makes a Huge Impact”–  I LOVE these two as I witnessed first hand how they moved around the room, connecting and engaging… they are masterful at this and we all have so much to learn from them!

Gemeem Davis, of – who offers “Personal Development For Today’s Entrepreneur”, has recently joined us after traveling the world – immediately engaged with and took pride in the group! Gemeem has so much to offer especially in the personal development arena.  She offers 3 special reports on her site, but the one that I know resonates with most of my subscribers is this:  “My Reluctancy To Call Myself An Expert Taught Me A Lot”.

I see how these 5 amazing individuals truly walk their talk.  They are out there engaging, contributing and adding value to us online.  They have gifts for you and they’re not hiding those gifts and are opening their hearts for you to receive those gifts.

How about you?  Are you engaging? What are your “rules of engagement”?  If you’re not engaging, I want to know why not?

From my personal experience as well as what my clients share with me, here are the reasons – or shall we say, excuses – why people don’t engage.  Do some of these resonate with you?

1) I don’t think what I have to share is valuable.
2) A lot of people are already talking about XYZ strategy, why should I talk about the same thing?
3) I don’t really know what to talk about.
4) I’m going to wait until I am clear on what my passion and offerings are.
5) I am really shy.
6) What if they don’t respond to my comment?
7) So many people are commenting on a post, I don’t want to comment and be bothered by all the notifications coming to my Inbox
8) I don’t know where to find valuable stuff to share.
9) If I share so and so’s stuff, my clients might go to him/her instead of me.

And last but not least, my “favorite” because it just doesn’t make sense:
10) I don’t have the time to build relationships online!

Okay,  if you’re reading this, chances are those excuses don’t apply to you, right?

Just like Beth, Rowena, Pat, Lorna and Gemeem, I know you all are relational marketers, if not, you’re committed to becoming one and that’s why you’re here.

Engagement is just making a conscious decision everyday to connect with someone.  It doesn’t have to take 3 hours to engage and connect… Some days I do it for 30 minutes, other days over 1 hour and some days, zero.

If you find yourself needing help in engaging more deeply online, come stay tuned for some announcements on my upcoming Webshows on EmmaTiebens.TV.
Engagement is going to be one of my topics, together with Encourage and Empower.

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Until Next Time…

I Am Cheering You On To Your Success!

Emma 😉

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15 thoughts on “Stop Hiding, Start Engaging!

  1. Okay, I’ll just complete a knee-jerk reaction while skimming through the post and “engage” in a different way, Emma. Here’s a quote I just created a few moments ago that someone may enjoy (or not, lol!)

    Favorite Things — Treasures of the heart opened by surprise or determination during the journeys of our lives. ©Lee Wise

    Have a blessed day, Emma!

  2. Dear Emma,

    Thank you so much for putting this all together and you are so thoughtful for sharing the spotlight with us here. I am indeed privileged and blessed to know you and be part of your valuable group – The Relational Marketers. Your leadership and inspiration is nothing short of amazing!

    Your videos definitely got me started to conquer my fears and to explore video marketing myself. I can’t thank you enough for touching my life. You will forever be “THE” Relational Marketer!

    p.s. I am not officially touring Europe, my hubby is stationed in France, but we get to tour the place on weekends. But yes, we’re enjoying every bit of it! 🙂

    Love and hugs,

  3. Emma,

    By creating “The Relational Marketers” Facebook Group, you have given us a very cool place to hang out and share our journey with others . One aspect we love the most is being able to connect with people at any time to discuss ideas and move forward on what we’re working on at the time. It’s like a master mind group that meets whenever the need arises… and with a bunch of friends.

    To us, connecting with others and building relationships is the best thing about social media and doing business online. We’ve met so many amazingly cool people so far, and we look forward to all the others we haven’t met yet.

    We have been blessed to have met you Emma, and to be able to call you a friend.

    ~ Pat and Lorna

  4. Dear Emma,

    Now you’ve blow me away with your very nice comments and mention of all of us in this post — you really meant it when you said you would “celebrate you” to those who would engage and do the homework!

    It is wonderful being challenged by you to stretch out of our comfort zone and do what we might no normally think to do. I’ve always been a relationship person, mostly in a Customer Service/Inside Sales capacity in wholesale distribution (8-1/2 years) before losing my job due to the economy 1-1/2 years ago. I missed so much the contact with my customers and vendors. But, now I am finding that need for connection here in the online world and with my nutrition school classmates– I am loving it!

    I thank you for all that you are and do! You inspire me to be the best I can be.
    I look forward to the next challenge you’ll come up with! 🙂

    Many blessings,

  5. The list you put out somewhat exposed the inner fears that I have. So many times I catch myself seeing a thread and want to “engage”…

    …then one of those “excuses” will pop up

    However, this past weekend, I was able to open up and share my testimony at our service. What a liberating experience. For nearly twenty years of my life, I have wanted to share about just how much God has changed my life.

    As I have read some of your post, I realized recently that I do have a lot to offer the cyber and real world.

    I am going to go join the group and let myself be known. Thanks for all that you do!

  6. Hello Eric! Your comment moved me to tears… I AM SOOO PROUD OF YOU for taking that leap… Hiding no longer serves you… it’s time to shine and share your greatness because by not doing so, you’re shortchanging those around you… Looking forward to watch you radiate that light!!! Big Hugs! Emma 😉

  7. Wow! Hello dearest Beth! How are you? Isn’t it amazing that our past simply prepares us for what lies ahead? Your experience in Customer Service prepped you to have more empathy of what your prospects, clients and peers could benefit from… I am so humbled that you believe I inspire you to be the best you can be! Thanks for your participation in our Group… means a lot to me as I am sure for the other memebers… Blessings back at you! Hugs, Emma 😉

  8. Dearest Pat and Lorna, first I am the one who is blessed to have met you and now call you friend! You have a way of bringing order from chaos and streamlining what seems to be a daunting task for most people using “The Brain”… thank you for creating my “Brain” for me – I can feel the love that went into that and I am most grateful! You have mastered and simplified Relational Marketing leveraging technology and I can’t wait to interview you at one of my shows or webinars! Much love to you both! Emma 😉

  9. You’re so welcome dear Sweet Rowena! I’m the one who’s inspired by your willingness to learn and genuinely connect people with each other! You remind me so much of how I was a year ago or so when I was identifying the people I wanted to associate myself with… I knew I wanted to give value through relational marketing… you my friend are a natural! Enjoy France – have you had my Mariage Freres Pleine Lune tea yet? Big Hugs!!! Love, Emma 😉

  10. Lee dearest Lee! It’s sooo great to “see” you again! How have you been? I absolutely enjoyed your comment: “Treasures of the heart opened by surprise or determination during the journeys of our lives. ©Lee Wise” It’s those unexpected surprises that are like God’s little winks to assure us that we’re on the right track 😉 Blessings Always! Emma 😉

  11. I really like how you stress the point about an actual, meaningful relationship versus a more robotic ‘we simply point people towards each other.’

    Yes it’s clearly difficult to spend time in this very hectic world. But I guess the question boils down to whether you would have 100 kinda friends or 5 solid ‘would give you the shirt off their backs’ friends.

    I prefer the latter, which is my reason #11 I don’t engage more people! 🙂

  12. Hello Rick!
    Thanks for your input… I absolutely agree that having a very small group of
    meaningful, profound and trustworthy relationships beats having thousands of
    followers or social media “friends”. When I wrote this article, I was thinking of my
    clients and friends who want to effectively use social media to gain more visibility,
    understanding that social media does take work and sharing of one’s authenticity
    in their brand to attract those they would like to connect and engage with.

    Sometimes, people have to start casting a wide net so the can “sift, sort and separate”,
    just as when you’re panning for gold… It is those golden relationships that
    is ultimately the reason why we engage in the first place….

    See you around, Rick!

  13. Hey Emma,
    I think you’re right on about casting and sifting. Without casting a wide net, we can’t be sure we’ll find the right people. Without sifting, we’ll hold onto too many relationships and not cultivate the important ones.

    Lots of great things to think about. I’m actually decent at sifting, but I’ve done it for so long that it’s time to start casting again 🙂

  14. I started El Morno on my personal Facebook page right after my husband died two years ago, because I would wake up early and be at a loss. I just posted the words “El Morno” a childhood greeting and people would stop by with a cup of coffee to chat for awhile before heading off to their day…then I started to add a quote, and a few interesting facts and more people showed up–a core group and some outsiders (friends of friends can post on my page) soon if I did not post…people who knew me would call me or text me to make sure I was ok–Now I post El Morno on Facebook every morning and copy it to my blog. Its a great way to connect with friends in the morning and we have such fun sharing virtual coffee… special group..anyone can play but we try to keep on the positive side of the morno!
    Loved your reasons why people “hide” we tend to tease the lurkers out of “liking” and talk them into joining us–it happens over time.